***Everyone has the right to his or her own opinion. Mine may differ from yours and I accept that, and if you would like to discuss your own, feel free to sound off in the comments! But please, be respectful. I am not here to offend anyone or try to sway them to see things my way, I am just expressing my beliefs and am open to having a conversation regarding any others that may be presented to me.
[Note: I’m not even going to touch the argument of religion and sexuality in this, as I feel it is a whole other discussion in itself, which will likely be written about in a post to come.]
It’s interesting that I started talking sexuality right around Spirit Day, which was on October 20th, in support of LGBT youth. Though really, any time is a good time to talk about sexuality, as it has become a big issue in modern society, with very split opinions on the subject. Yes, we have come a long way from past decades to being a more accepting culture, but there is still discrimination, and large movements of bullying against LGBT teens (and even adults). But why? Aspects of religion aside (as I mentioned above), what makes homosexuality or bisexuality seem offensive to some people? Because when it boils down to it, it’s really just about who you love and interact with, right?
Now I know, there is always that looming question of what exactly is love to begin with? You know that feeling you have with your best friends, like you can tell them anything, be who you really are, and there is also some strange emotional connection between you that you can’t put your finger on? Well, of course I don’t know for sure, but to me, that is love. I know that friends love each other, and I think that in essence, romantic love is just an extension of those same feelings. I’m not saying that if you “love” your best friend that you feel romantically about them, or that it is sexual in any sense, I just think that sometimes it can go beyond the “normal” realm of friendship/other relationship love and turn into romantic/sexual love, you know what I mean? How can someone say that emotions of love in a relationship are not real just because two people are of the same gender? Do you not love your friends of the same gender? Of course not in the same manner, but regardless, as I mentioned already, I feel like it’s really just a different form of those other types of “love” you may feel (but what do I know? I’m not a science or love expert by any means!)
And of course, some might argue that the nature of homosexuality and bisexuality, or any sexuality for that matter is in fact whom you want to have sex with (hence the nomenclature of the categories). It might be this thought of sexual activity that turns some off of accepting different sexualities because they see it as “unnatural”, but I don’t necessarily believe that sexuality per say boils down fundamentally to sex. Maybe it’s the romantic in me, but I think it has a lot more to do with emotionality and love than that. Or maybe I’ve watched A Single Man one too many times, because within that film, the main character recounts how he has had sex with women, but categorizes himself as gay because, as he tells his partner, "I fall in love with men. I fell in love with you". It’s all a matter of the labeling of sexualities based on sexual acts, I think, even when the fundamental basis for one may in fact be more emotional than physical.
On the other hand, yes, homosexuals and bisexuals choose to have sex with people of different genders than what one might consider normal (in terms of human biology and reproduction). Some view sex solely as a means of reproduction, but in modern times, this view is obviously not as common as it once was. That being said, if a majority of people don’t view sex as only necessary for reproductive purposes, why is it so wrong for two people of the same gender to engage in it? They obviously cannot procreate, but if that’s not what people of different genders are using it for either, why does that matter?
It also seems as though homosexuals and bisexuals have this stigma attached to them that they are more “sexually devious”, that is, will have sex with multiple partners, more frequently, and in less “conventional” ways, you might say. But what about all those heterosexuals that engage in the same sort of activities? Heterosexuals often partake in sexual acts that are similar to those which two females or two males might engage in (or so I’ve read and heard) with one another—not everyone simply has sex in one conventional way, even in heterosexual relationships. It’s unfair to stereotype certain sexualities as the deviant ones when in actuality there are those who sleep around or do partake in “kinky” activities in all sexualities. Every group has it’s exceptions, so it is unreasonable to lump all people of one particular label into a certain categorization that they may or may not fit into (you see, I’m not denying that there are both sexually mischievous homosexuals and heterosexuals, but not all of them in either category are like this, of course).
So what is it about different sexualities that make people wary to accept them? There are relationship issues in all sexualities, including both emotional and sexual aspects, making it seem like no one “type” of relationship is necessarily superior to another (besides the fact that one can procreate and the other cannot).
Do you think that there is really any difference between two people of opposing genders falling in love and two people of the same gender falling in love, aside from basic biology? What are your thoughts on the subject?